Remember that big dating vs. courtship debate youth groups and families had a few years back sparked by Josh Harris’ book I Kissed Dating Goodbye? If a recent story in The New York Times is accurate, young people outside of the Church today are questioning dating too—but they’re asking, “why bother?”
According to Boston University professor Donna Freitas, college grads these days are so used to quick hookups without romance or commitment, many of them don’t even know how to ask each other to the movies anymore. Freitas, who’s just authored a book on the subject, argues that young people don’t know how to start long-term relationships—much less find a mate. And with shortcuts like texting, social media and casual sex—many of them just don’t feel the need.
It’s no mystery that no-strings-attached, on-demand intimacy kills relationships. And whatever our stance on dating vs. courtship, Christians may find ourselves the only ones who remember what romance is all about. For the Point Radio, I’m John Stonestreet.