Last year when the “Fifty Shades of Grey” craze struck, the popular media began to embrace and celebrate sadomasochism and so-called “mommy porn.”
But as Shannon Ethridge, author and relationship coach wrote at CNN.com last month, it’s inaccurate to chalk “Fifty Shades” up to sexual deviancy alone. After all, these books found their biggest audience among middle-aged women, who have traditionally been the least interested in pornography.
So what’s happening? Ethridge thinks that our growing exploration of taboo sex is a byproduct of a society less and less connected. She says real sexual intimacy—the kind marriage offers—is in short supply, so we’ve replaced intimacy with intensity, hoping we can fool ourselves.
But by exploring erotic literature, we’ve just opened the doors to more brokenness—not fulfillment.
As C. S. Lewis helps us see in “The Great Divorce,” sin is always a woeful substitute for the real, God-given object of our desires.